I talk to myself A LOT. That is a fact that anyone who lives with me knows. My husband knows it, my kids know it and so do my close friends and siblings. I do it every day, all day. And I suspect that some of you reading this do it too, so I know I’m not the only one.
I’ve always underestimated the value of ‘self-talk’ until I started my home based business and began working on my professional development. I’ve never thought about the relationship between my self-esteem and the way I speak to myself. But if I really sit and think about it, perhaps I’ve been doing it longer that I know. You see, I grew up in the Caribbean and I went to a less than desirable high school, and lived in a less than desirable neighbourhood. There were all these preconceived notions about how my life was supposed to become, however I’ve never let that daunt me. I’ve always talked to myself about the goals I wished to accomplish and the future I wanted to have, despite all the circumstances that existed around me.
And wouldn’t you know it! I managed to forge my own path and achieve my goals.
So, why and how is this relevant you may ask? Here are three reasons why you should use positive self-talk in life and in business:
- In the section of his book The 15 Invaluable Laws of Growth, John C Maxwell writes that people are never able to outperform their self-image. How can you reach the top of the company when you consistently think that you’re not good enough or you consistently doubt yourself? It is true that even if you have amazing qualities that can take you to places beyond your imagination, a lack of self-esteem will always limit your potential and keep you stagnant time after time.
- It’s a great help in getting out of your comfort zone. Nothing is more challenging and scaring than trying something new for the first time. And nothing comes more loud and clear than self-doubt and the feeling of inadequacy. Positive self-talk gives you the first step to reach out and do the uncomfortable
- Dealing with challenges, rejection and failure becomes less bitter. I didn’t say that these issues won’t be unpleasant. It just means that when they arise, you can continue to speak positively to yourself so that self-pity has no room to grow
If you had told me that I’d be writing on this topic three years ago, I’d be rolling my eyes to the heavens, because I did not see any possible value in the way we talk to ourselves. But I’ve seen first-hand that it is true. And if I may insert another JCM a quote here, if you put a small value on yourself, rest assured the world will not raise the price.
So, what is the nature of your self-talk? Do you encourage yourself or do you criticize yourself? Share your comments below.
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